Affirm, Not Criticize

Affirm, Not Criticise

Criticisms take something away from you. Affirmations add something to your heart and soul.

If I stumbled halfway during a race, and hands reached out to pick me up, I would double up my efforts to catch up to make up for lost time.

But if I was running in a race and hands reached out to push me, then I would still pick myself up, but I would look around warily to see if those hands would do that to me again...I would not be running a good race because my focus is now on preventing myself from getting hurt, instead of going all out with my eyes only on the finishing line.

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